F is for family, and father's both. I think I craved a large family due to my own disfunctional family growing up. My real father had nothing to do with me, and my step-father...well, let's just say he had some good points, but ruined it when I turned 13. He was the one who taught me how to work for myself, and to try new things. He was very intelligent (a member of mensa and a non practicing lawyer) and he encouraged me to do anything I set my mind on. He became my step father when I turned 8, and he died about 10 years or so ago. However, what he did from 13 until 17 ruined any feelings I had for him, and I moved away and didn't shed a tear when he died.
My husbands father was a good guy, but he liked to drink. That caused a lot of issues in their family, and I can't comprehend what that was like. Sure, my dad got drunk and all, but he did it in the comfort of his own home. He wasn't a social drunk, and Tony's father was. My dad was pretty mild mannered when he drank, but I don't think that Tony's dad was....anyway.
My son's real father was a real winner...He denied that Austin was his for a very long time, and put a huge wall in between us. Then one day he decides to meet Austin and apologize for all those missed years. It was weird to say the least.
My daughter's father was unemployable, couldn't read and wasn't a pleasant person to be around mostly. He hid drugs in my roof, and liked to drink. He ended up in prison for things I can't talk about here, and proceeded to pass away while in prison. I was happy about that, because he did not deserve to ever get out, and that was an option that was coming up close to that time.
Why did I pick these guys? I don't know, but I can't say that I wish I hadn't, because if I do that, where would that have put me? My children are the greatest gift to me, and if I hadn't had them, I would be such a different person now. I was seriously headed the wrong direction and they stopped that. So, I am greatful bad people gave me great kids....
Lastly, Tony. He is a good father. He has his moments, and carries some baggage from his own father that I wish he could put behind him, and change. For the most part though??? He is great. My kids are blessed to have such a loving dad. He is very involved in the day to day stuff, and will not miss an opportunity to be with the kids.
Also, he wanted this large family too...Whether we are done now, or have 10 more, he is on board with me either way. I thank God for this father and my family.
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Congratulations for overcoming so many obstacles. I am blessed with a wonderful father for my kids also.
well your stepdad is rotten. Do I know the bio fathers of your first two? Is he involved now? Ashlea's is NOT and I am so glad for so many reasons.
Jeff is an amazing father, and he comes from a really great father too. I came from a very bad family and had to overcome that kind of stuff.
recently jeff brought to my attention that I blame somebody all the time. like if something goes wrong, i have to blame someone. then my mom came for a visit and i realized that i get it from her...she was blaming my sister for getting lost. so i prayed that god would help me stop blaming. i think i'm doing better.
but yea, that stuff is hard to get rid of.
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